Many people claim that failure is the best way to learn and grow as a person. However, it’s not easy to live through failure. As such, people may lose confidence in themselves. This sense of low self-esteem is normal.
Although everybody would love to live their life while achieving one success after another, sometimes you may find yourself not meeting the expectations you’ve set for yourself.
By not reaching these expectations, you learn more about who you are and how you react to situations that do not go your way. Learning from your failures and improving as a person may feel difficult in the short run, but ideally, eventually, your self-esteem will come back better than before.
You can find natural remedies for self-confidence, such as taking care of your body or drinking tea. One of the best ways that you can raise your self-esteem is by reinforcing your strongest personal values.
Drown out your negative voice
Your failures may accompany a tiny voice in your head that tells you that you do not know what you are doing. This voice can negatively impact your way of thinking and prevent you from being your best. This is just one tiny, pessimistic, human part that makes up your personality.
You can drown out your negative voice with positive thoughts. Even if something does not go your way, try to think about one small action on your part that felt true to yourself.
For example, you may have ended up in a situation in which someone needed your help; when hesitated, someone else stepped up and helped resolve the situation. In this scenario, respect how you were kind and considerate to everyone involved and thank the other person for helping out when you felt like you could not do anything.
While you might feel shame for not doing anything, you can learn from the experience and grow as a person.
Focus on your goals
Along with drowning out your negative voice, you may also want to focus on your goals and see them through. It might be easy to compare yourself with another person who seemingly is doing everything right while you are struggling to meet your goals, but people are rarely as confident and perfect as the image they present to the world.
They may have also struggled to get to where they are in the present moment. Yet, they are enjoying success because they worked hard, have friends and family who support them, and possess the willpower to succeed in their endeavors.
You also possess the willpower to accomplish your personal dreams. Rely on your own inner strength to push past any obstacle and achieve your happiness. Confide in friends and loved ones, since they also want to see you succeed as much as you want to see them be happy.
Be kind to yourself and others
The most important thing that you can do for yourself right now is to be kind. If you felt as if you did something wrong, forgive yourself and learn from the experience. Take the time to do something you really enjoy, such as writing, reading, or playing games.
Losing self-confidence may just involve beating yourself up over an array of situations. Try to be kind, forgiving, and focused on moving on, so you are more likely to regain your confidence and become a better person for it.
You may take comfort knowing that everyone experiences failure in their life at some point. Failure does not define who you are as a person. Rather, it is your response to that failure that can shape who you are. Never give up on being a good person and always move forward as best you can.
Post contributed by Marie Miguel
Marie Miguel has been a writing and research expert for nearly a decade, covering a variety of health- related topics. Currently, she is contributing to the expansion and growth of a free online mental health resource with BetterHelp.com. With an interest and dedication to addressing stigmas associated with mental health, she continues to specifically target subjects related to anxiety and depression.