How you treat your bridesmaids can make or break your wedding. You might feel like you have to be super nice and accommodating, but in reality, they probably just want to be treated like a very close friend.
Here are 12 easy ways you can treat your bridesmaids on your big day;
1) Respect Their Time
It is incredibly important you respect your bridesmaids’ time, especially if they are doing something other than being at the wedding. Make sure they know their attire, where they need to be, and when they need to be there. Also be mindful of the fact that maybe they have a full day of activities planned (hair, makeup, etc.). Give them some breathing room for extra time so this can go smoothly.
2) Be Respectful Of Their Opinions
This is your wedding, but it’s also going to be their experience. The best way to handle this is to accommodate them as much as possible. For example, if they don’t like embellishments on their dresses, tell the seamstress to take them off. You don’t have to agree with them, but you need to respect that they are being honest with you.
Also, with bridesmaids, this means you should be honest about the bride’s preferences. If she wants to wear a turtleneck and a long necklace, it is not only okay to tell her that she can’t wear a turtleneck or a long necklace, but it’s also okay to tell her where you think the dresses are acceptable and where they aren’t. If she doesn’t like the dress in the photos, that is not your fault. You can tell her that, but remember to do it kindly.
3) Give Them Something To Do
This is kind of a no-brainer. People like to feel useful. When you can take their skills, likes and/or dislikes and put them into use for your wedding, you will be surprised at how much more grateful they will be. Plus, if you give them something to do, they will be less likely to sit around and drink all afternoon.
4) Give Them A Place To Sit
Unless your bridesmaids are at the wedding because of a very specific friendship with the bride or groom, they are probably not going to know many people there. Make sure you have some sort of area where your bridesmaids can meet up and sit during the wedding. If you forego an area for them to sit and they just sit on the floor, they might look like they are homeless. Not an attractive look while getting ready, or during the wedding.
5) Offer to buy them bridesmaid dresses
This is a fairly obvious one, but it is something that can be surprisingly overlooked. If you can afford to do it, offer to buy your bridesmaids a dress to wear during your wedding. You’ll have peace of mind knowing they are in a nice dress instead of their own. They will also feel more at ease and more confident if they are in a suitable dress during the ceremony and pictures. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but the dresses can fit your girls well. And you can also choose the dresses that match your wedding theme, you can buy them blushing pink bridesmaid dresses that can be referred to as a romantic wedding theme.
6) Make Sure They Get To See The Photos
Bridesmaids are pictured in most of the photos that are taken at weddings and many don’t know this. Give them a copy of the photos taken and send them a link to the photos or put them on disc and mail it to them. This makes them feel included and appreciated. And the pictures will keep them smiling for years to come!
7) Make Sure They Are Ready
If you have a full bridal party, you might feel the pressure to make sure that everyone is properly ready at all times. But, unless you have a very specific wedding schedule, it’s probably not going to be necessary. When in doubt, have your maids do what feels right for them. The best advice I can give is to just keep it light and fun.
9) Keep Them Informed
Your bridesmaids might not like to be worried about their tasks, but you should make sure they are informed. If there is something unexpected or important for them to do, let them know before it happens. This can sometimes save a lot of stress later. Remember communication is key.
10) Keep Them On Your Target List
For those of you that might be worried about the maids not being there on the wedding day, rest easy knowing that they are on your list and are going to be there! Contact them a couple of months before your wedding date with a short note letting them know how much you appreciate their help. This lets them know that they are important and remember them fondly. Plus, it will make you feel like you got everything out of your wedding that you wanted.
11) Give Them An Experience They Will Never Forget
Your bridesmaids probably get asked to be in a lot of weddings. If you are looking for a way to make your wedding stand out (in a good way) and have your bridesmaids talk about it for years to come, give them an experience they will never forget. Give them the day off. Take them to the spa before the wedding or give them money and suggest they go shopping. Whatever it is, if you can give them an unexpected experience, they will be impressed.
12) Be Thankful
This might be the most important thing you do for your bridesmaids! It is so important to show your appreciation that they have made the time in their busy lives to help you on your wedding day. Thank them profusely and tell them how much they mean to you. Then, make sure that you follow through with this. If you have bridesmaids and then decide to change your mind and pull them off of your list, they will feel like you don’t genuinely appreciate their commitment.
Conclusion
So, everything you do in the lead-up to your wedding can help you make your day go smoothly. And if you don’t have any bridesmaids, it’s okay! You will still get to enjoy your day because the people that are there are close to you. And if you want to start to treat them well now, you can check Cicinia for bridesmaid dresses and get more ideas.
